A few weeks ago I experienced a very special moment when another man said to me, “When I think of these things I almost want to cry.” I’m 40 years old and don’t think I’ve ever heard another man be so honest and sincere. The men’s bible study at church is currently reading a book entitled “Wild at Heart” by John Eldredge. In this book the author discusses a concept related to men being “posers.” He writes “Truth be told, most of us are faking our way through life. We pick only those battles we are sure to win, only those adventures we are sure to handle…” Genesis 3:10 is also referenced when Adam says, “I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”
Men, how many of us are hiding? Not because we are naked but because we are afraid. Our fear drives us to “fake and pose” our way through life as if we do not have struggles, guilt, pain, feelings, or emotions. There is an old saying (although probably true) “that behind every great man is a great woman.” Well how about this… “Beside every Godly man, there are other Godly men!”
We must find ways to move beyond our personal “castle mentality” which establishes walls and gates as means of protection. The walls we build do not provide us with protection, instead they prevent us from being fully protected by God. Behind these walls we are separated from each other. These walls are not physical, they are spiritual. They are built with bricks of pride and a mortar of pain and unforgiveness.
Proverbs 27:17 states that “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” This sharpening does not occur by merely being in proximity of each other. It does not happen by just gently coming in contact. This sharpening occurs when we open up to each other with honesty and sincerity. This does not mean we must go around sharing our deepest thoughts with everyone, there is no wisdom in that. It means that every one of us needs men in our lives that are more than just friends. We need brothers of accountability, mentors, and disciples. Do you have these relationships in your life? Do you desire these relationships in your life? If so, praise God! If not, keep this matter in prayer and look for opportunities to begin establishing these special relationships. Blessed is best!!